I struggled with anxiety for a very long time. My anxiety is a generalized social anxiety, and at its peak, it stopped me from doing things that required being around people. In summary…pretty much anything.
I’m doing much better now. But it took a lot of work.
When it comes to building strength in the gym, we understand what it takes- regularly working out on a consistent basis, and increasing the weight over time. But when it comes to building our MENTAL strength, we tend to overlook that principle.
I spent many years trying to figure out my anxiety. I read countless self-help books thinking I’d find the answer to all of my problems. I just wanted to find a solution.
The solution ended up being one I knew about all along, but refused to accept: I needed to face my fears. I needed to embrace the discomfort.
Do whatever it is that makes you uncomfortable. Start small. Focus on the small victories. Then continue to build from there.
If you’re terrified of driving, you shouldn’t just force yourself to drive on the highway. Start by backing out of the driveway. Do that for a week. Then try to drive down your street. Etc.
Just like in the gym. Someone who has never worked out before isn’t going to get under the bar and try to squat 225lbs. You start with no weight at all, then slowly work your way up.
We’re used to pushing our bodies in the gym and being uncomfortable. We get sore and can’t move after a grueling workout, but we embrace it because we know that means we’re getting stronger. We LOVE the physical discomfort.
Challenge yourself mentally, too. Do what scares you. It’s going to make you uncomfortable. Very uncomfortable. But learn to embrace that discomfort. Because it means that what you are doing is working.
Whatever you are going through, understand that it’s up to you to put in the work. And you are worth it.
And most importantly, remember that you are not alone. Ever. There are so many people out there going through what you are, they just might not be talking about it